Saturday, December 17, 2016

Just an Essay that I Got a 98 for in Our English Requirement: Why Do We Love?

Love is a really complicated subject, for you could mean a lot of things when you say, “I love you.” You could mean “I love you” as a friend, as a brother, or even as a cousin who you would like to have a laugh with when they visit and feel relieved once they leave. But what about when we say “I love you” romantically? What does love have to do with romance? Why do we even perform such a complex thing that manifests a huge mystery that even scientists and philosophers have had a hard time trying to decipher what it is?

C8H11NO2+C10H12N2O+C43H66N12O12S2 ̶ dopamine + serotonin + oxytocin. This is the chemical formula for love. You see, I tend to question why people fall in love. I try to seek out the logical explanation for everything. I search for the science behind why things are the way they are. It turns out, people love because the brain, specifically the pituitary gland, secretes these three hormones that people interpret as love. So, we love because of, as what people have said before, the chemical reactions that are happening in our brain. We cannot control the involuntary organs that do what they want to do. We cannot help it. We cannot fight it. Most people cannot. I try to fight it. Every time when I think I am falling in love, I try to think that it is just infatuation, and it normally is. That is why I am still single until now.

But we are not talking about that right now. We are talking about why we love. Like I said, it is just your gland releasing hormones. Why does our gland secrete hormones? It does that because it is nature. It is in biology and in our anatomy. Cells break down and build themselves up to continue the life cycle. If people have not loved for thousands of years then we would not exist right now. If people have not loved, romance movies would not have existed, plays like Romeo and Juliet would not have been made, poems about heartache and marriage would not have been printed in books and sold in bookstores, Nicholas Sparks novels would not have made it into the world and remade into terrible movies, and you would have not been singing that same old love song for so many times now.

During boring classes, the students get really drowsy and decide to sleep. When the teacher talks about love, all of the drowsiness suddenly fade away. They become snappy. There is something in the subject that captures the attention of people. Maybe like a program that is designed to make us respond when we hear that word. Talking about it makes us feel happy, rewarded and content. Perhaps that is why we love. We love so that we can be happy. We love so we can share our happiness with that special someone. Two people compromise a relationship to perform a symbiosis. Both giving the other a part of themselves, trusting that the other will not take him or her for granted.

Some people prefer not to question why we love. They will say that it is just the way it is. We love because we just do it. Should that not be enough? When two people are in a relationship, one of them may ask, “Why do you love me?” then the other may answer by stating a few features that person may have: “I love you because your smile brightens the world”, “I love you because your eyes remind me of the ocean”, or “I love you because I see so much of myself in you”. One’s reason to love may be is to just reciprocate for being loved: “I love you because you love me”. Some people love because they think it is the appropriate thing to do. Society will judge you if you are unable to love at all. People love, to conform to the norms set by our ancestors a long time ago. It is abnormal if you have the inability to love, because it is love that makes us human. It is what makes us different from animals. We love, because we are designed to do so.

When you first meet a person, you do not know if you will love them in the future. You do not know if they will love you. You do not know if you will even love each other. But as time passes, you will realize that when you stare at his eyes, you will notice the way his lips curve when he smiles, and the way that he can play each note on the guitar so perfectly that it makes you want to smile, too. You will think about him before you sleep, or when you cannot sleep at all, or even in the shower. You will wonder what is happening. And then you will say, “Ah, so this is why we love.”

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